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Adventures with the bandanna – Haleakala

The bandanna made by Emi is getting good use!

New Bandana Haleakala

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NCCK Young Adults Peace March

An invitation from our partners in Korea to participate in a peace walk
2015 DMZ Walkathon for Peace and Reunification on the Korean Peninsula
Christian Young Adults,
Harvesting Peace from the Site of Division
Dates: July 20(Mon.) – 25(Sat.), 2015

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This coming July, my partner, the National Council of Churches in Korea (NCCK) is inviting Korean young adults residing around the world to participate in a Peace March week long program on Korea’s division, war, and hope for reconciliation. They are especially interested in Korean Americans participating, and they have asked me to send a special invite to Korean Americans in the PC(USA). They hope this will be a significant time, the 70th anniversary of Korea’s division, for Korean residents in other countries to encourage their communities to join the movement for reconciliation on the Korean peninsula. It is VERY SHORT notice, I am afraid, so if you have this week free in July, please jump on this. Details below!

2015 DMZ Walkathon for Peace and Reunification on the Korean Peninsula

Christian Young Adults,
Harvesting Peace from the Site of Division

Dates: July 20(Mon.) – 25(Sat.), 2015
*The actual program…

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Maui – the bandannas

“Aloha!”

She gave the traditional greeting as I stepped into her display at the local artists store near the Maui Ocean Center.

“Aloha,” I replied.

“There’s lots more shirts over here,” she said.

“Thanks, I’m just looking.”

I had decided I wanted to get a bandanna or two in an Hawai’ian pattern. “I will know it when I see it,” I told Tricia, Bruce, and Nancy.

“What are you looking for?” she persisted.

“Do you have any bandannas?” I asked.

“No,” she replied. “A number of people have asked, but I don’t.”

“Oh, well. Thank you.”

“What size would it be?” she asked.

“I don’t know,” I said.

“Take it off,” she pointed to the bandanna I wore.

“Is it square?” she asked as I removed it.

“I think so.”

We measured. And it was not square. Close. But not square.

“I could make you one,” she said.

“Really?” I asked.

“Yes.”

We went to a table where she had fabrics. She moved through them. A red. A green. And then.

Black and gold. A traditional pattern. In Pittsburgh colors.

“This one,” I said.

“I don’t know,” she sounded concerned. “I could do red … ”

Her voiced trailed off. I did not understand. She turned and rummaged in a bag.

“Yes!” she said with a broad smile as she placed a skein of yellow string on the fabric.

“How many do you want?”

“How much would they cost?” I responded.

After we agreed on a price, she asked, “How long are you staying here?”

“Well, I could come back in a couple of days,” I replied.

“No. How long are you staying here today?” she asked. “Are you going to the restaurant?”

“We already ate,” I said. “But if you can make them today, I would wait.”

“I will make them,” she replied.

I went and found Tricia and told her what was happening. We wandered around the Pacific Whale Foundation and then each of us went our own way. I told her where to find my new friend and said I would meet her there.

After fifteen minutes or so, I went back. My friend was working away on a sewing machine. “Almost done,” she said.

I found Tricia. We bought a couple long sleeve shirts for our trip to Haleakala National Park. And then we went back.

“I made them a little larger than the one you had,” said the artist.

“That’s great!”

She started to bag them up. I asked her to stop and picked one up.

“You want to try it on?” she asked.

“I want to wear it out of here.”

Emi and MarkShe laughed and watched me put the bandanna on my head. “So that’s how you do it.”

“It’s my sunscreen.” She laughed again.

“I am Mark,” I said.

“I am Emi.”

“This is Tricia. And one more thing, if you are willing. I would like Tricia to take a photo of you and me.”

We ended up taking photos of Tricia and me. And Emi and me. We used Tricia’s phone. We used Emi’s phone. We laughed and smiled.

I got her card. We exchanged “Mahalo” multiple times. And Tricia and I left.

I knew what I wanted. I had seen it. And with Emi’s help, I have it.

See you along the Trail.

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Maui – the shirt

Tricia and I arrived at the time share in Maui where Bruce and Nancy Eng MacNeill met us. After words of greeting, they told me they had a Hawaiian shirt for me.

Shirt and MarkI cringed a bit as I generally don’t like such shirts. But they brought it out and it was awesome.

“It’s an XL,” said Nancy.

“Not sure I can wear that,” I replied.

“It’s cut a bit larger than other XLs,” she responded.

I took the shirt. Tried it on. It fit!

An XL. An XL. A year ago, I would have needed a 3X or 4X.

Much work remains. But I have made progress.

A great shirt from good friends and an XL. Good stuff.

See you around the Trail.

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Celebrating Contributions and Enduring Racism: Asian American and Pacific Islander (AAPI) Heritage Month

Grace Ji-Sun Kim reflects on Asian American and Pacific Islander Heritage Month.

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AAPIMay is Asian American and Pacific Islander (AAPI) Heritage Month.

I hope that many people will recognize AAPI contributions and also our struggles.  This is my latest Huffington Post, “Celebrating Contributions and Enduring Racism“.

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Presbyterians celebrating Asian Pacific American Heritage Month

May is Asian Pacific Heritage Month.

My friend the Rev. Laura Mariko Cheifetz is celebrating the month with a series on her blog with guest writers “from many generations, different ethnic groups, and represent the diversity of what it means to be Asian Pacific American and Presbyterian.”

Check it out!

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Career move?

As the Presbyterian participants in the 59th Session of the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women gathered for an orientation, I discovered that I had to hand write two name tags.

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Do I have a career in font design?

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Let your mentors know

10898187_10205565343713833_2358578664913363875_nMy mentor and friend, the Rev. Dr. Otis Turner, is having a heart procedure next week. Please hold Otis, his wife Patsy, their family, and his care team in your prayers. It is a procedure he has had in the past and is reasonably simple. But it is his heart; and he is my dear friend.I remembered that today.

Otis worked for racial justice in the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.), our country and the world for more years than I can remember. He gave himself in the struggle.

Otis and I met while I served on the staff of the Presbytery of the Western Reserve. He was on General Assembly staff.

He quickly became my mentor and we developed a deep friendship that has placed a significant role in my ministry and my life.

Otis recruited me to work on the Facing Racism: In Search of the Beloved Community paper of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.). After the General Assembly adopted the paper, I went to Louisville to work on its implementation. With Otis, and others.

For two good, important, life-shaping (for me at least) years, we worked together.Otis retired for health reasons shortly after I moved to the Presbyterian Peacemaking Program, but our friendship continued.

When he moved to Florida, we would talk on the phone every couple of months.And then, as it so often does, time slipped away. The time between calls grew longer and then extended to years.

Yesterday I spotted Patsy on Facebook. We became virtual friends. I asked about calling Otis. She said he would welcome a call.

When I called, it was as though no time had passed. Oh, he spoke more slowly and deliberately, but I likely did so as well.

We laughed. Tears welled in my eyes at times, and probably in his.

It was a sacred moment. A moment in which I learned of his upcoming surgery.

I have been praying since. I invite you to join me.

And I encourage you to contact one person who has been a mentor to you and let that person know!

Do it for the love of Otis.

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The day draws to a close

The day draws to a close,
yet another day
after.

The day draws to a close,
yet another day
without you.

The day draws to a close,
the pain of friends
who grieve at death,
who mourn for the dying,
touches my grief
and sends my spirit flinching
as when a child
pokes an open wound.

The day draws to a close,
the love of friends
who reach out in kindness,
who share their sorrow,
touches my soul
and sends my spirit soaring
as when a bird
rises to the air.

The day draws to a close,
grief and love mingle;
I think of you and ache.
I think of you and smile.

The Shire
Manhattan, New York
28 January 2015

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Companions

When the moment comes
and we realize that the fault is,
truly in us and not the stars,
we can but work to put right
what we have done wrong
and trust the community
will rally to our side.

See you along the Trail.

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