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The Meaning of Children: Later

W. Mark Koenig:

My friend Mihee Kim-Kort is hosting a series on her First Day Walking blog that features stories from people in all walks of life and their observations of children and what they make us. Today she honored me by allowing me to share some reflections. Hope I didn’t embarrass anyone. Also, a big shout out to Mihee for calling me “seasoned” as she promoted the post on Twitter.

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The Meaning of Children

In May FDW is hosting a new series on  stories from people in all walks of life and their observations of children and what they make us. Click here for more on the series and a list of the contributors. This post was written by friend and colleague Mark Koenig.

Every parent-child relationship is unique. As is every child-parent relationship. And every relationship between or among siblings. And every relationship within the web of family by choice and family by birth.

Affirming that, my words are descriptive, struggling to capture my unique reality. They neither prescribe nor proscribe. If they resonate with anyone else, provide insight or guidance, that’s grace.

I write as the father of two men. My older son is 32; my younger son 27. My sons, at this and every age. My children. Looking back across the years, I find a number of dimensions of meaning in…

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The Meaning of Children: Letter to Jonathan

W. Mark Koenig:

In May, my friend Mihee Kim-Kort is hosting a series on her blog, First Day Walking, that features stories from people in many walks of life and their observations of children and what they make us. All the posts are amazing. Here, my friend Larissa Kwong Abazia, vice-moderator of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) shares part a letter she is writing to her son Jonathan about facing breast cancer. The courage, grace, faith, hope, and love of Jonathan, Dan, and Larissa move and inspire me.

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The Meaning of Children

In May FDW is hosting a new series on  stories from people in all walks of life and their observations of children and what they make us. Click here for more on the series and a list of the contributors. This post was written by my wonderful and beautiful friend Larissa Kwong Abazia. So honored to have her here.

I was diagnosed with breast cancer in February 2015. This is a portion of a letter I’ve been writing to my three year old son, Jonathan.

Dear Jonathan,

I’m writing you this letter trusting that I will be around to see your first day of kindergarten, watch you graduate from high school, and be a part of every single step in-between (and after!).  Writing to you during a time that you may or may not remember is important to me. I want you to know how you are an important part of…

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Adventures with the bandanna – Charley’s Restaurant and Saloon

Friday brought a visit to Paia and lunch at Charley’s Restaurant and Saloon. There the bandanna posed with a replica, a wee bit larger than life, of Willie Nelson’s guitar.

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15 May 2015

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Adventures with the bandanna – Iao Valley State Monument

The bandanna visited Iao Valley State Monument today.

Bandanna Iao Valley

14 May 2015

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Adventures with the bandanna – Haleakala

The bandanna made by Emi is getting good use!

New Bandana Haleakala

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New York City AIDS Walk – five updates

AIDS WalkFive updates on the New York City AIDS Walk – Sunday, May 17, 2017

1. I will probably not walk on Sunday. I had not paid close enough attention to my flights and now know I arrive at JFK at 7:25 AM. I will give it a go, but it seems unlikely to me that I will be able to make it to registration. I will also try to find Sean​ and the Marie’s Crisis team.

2. I will walk 10K at some point if I do not make it on Sunday.

3. I will let you know when I walk and I invite friends to walk with me if they are so inclined and available.

4. Sean has pretty well crushed me in fundraising. That’s great because the cause is worthy!.

5. But you still have time to make a gift and decrease the margin of my fundraising defeat.

See you along the Trail.

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Maui – the bandannas

“Aloha!”

She gave the traditional greeting as I stepped into her display at the local artists store near the Maui Ocean Center.

“Aloha,” I replied.

“There’s lots more shirts over here,” she said.

“Thanks, I’m just looking.”

I had decided I wanted to get a bandanna or two in an Hawai’ian pattern. “I will know it when I see it,” I told Tricia, Bruce, and Nancy.

“What are you looking for?” she persisted.

“Do you have any bandannas?” I asked.

“No,” she replied. “A number of people have asked, but I don’t.”

“Oh, well. Thank you.”

“What size would it be?” she asked.

“I don’t know,” I said.

“Take it off,” she pointed to the bandanna I wore.

“Is it square?” she asked as I removed it.

“I think so.”

We measured. And it was not square. Close. But not square.

“I could make you one,” she said.

“Really?” I asked.

“Yes.”

We went to a table where she had fabrics. She moved through them. A red. A green. And then.

Black and gold. A traditional pattern. In Pittsburgh colors.

“This one,” I said.

“I don’t know,” she sounded concerned. “I could do red … ”

Her voiced trailed off. I did not understand. She turned and rummaged in a bag.

“Yes!” she said with a broad smile as she placed a skein of yellow string on the fabric.

“How many do you want?”

“How much would they cost?” I responded.

After we agreed on a price, she asked, “How long are you staying here?”

“Well, I could come back in a couple of days,” I replied.

“No. How long are you staying here today?” she asked. “Are you going to the restaurant?”

“We already ate,” I said. “But if you can make them today, I would wait.”

“I will make them,” she replied.

I went and found Tricia and told her what was happening. We wandered around the Pacific Whale Foundation and then each of us went our own way. I told her where to find my new friend and said I would meet her there.

After fifteen minutes or so, I went back. My friend was working away on a sewing machine. “Almost done,” she said.

I found Tricia. We bought a couple long sleeve shirts for our trip to Haleakala National Park. And then we went back.

“I made them a little larger than the one you had,” said the artist.

“That’s great!”

She started to bag them up. I asked her to stop and picked one up.

“You want to try it on?” she asked.

“I want to wear it out of here.”

Emi and MarkShe laughed and watched me put the bandanna on my head. “So that’s how you do it.”

“It’s my sunscreen.” She laughed again.

“I am Mark,” I said.

“I am Emi.”

“This is Tricia. And one more thing, if you are willing. I would like Tricia to take a photo of you and me.”

We ended up taking photos of Tricia and me. And Emi and me. We used Tricia’s phone. We used Emi’s phone. We laughed and smile.

I got her card. We exchanged “Mahalo” multiple times. And Tricia and I left.

I knew what I wanted. I had seen it. And with Emi’s help, I have it.

See you along the Trail.

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